Staying Safe During Tantric And Yoni Massage In Manchester
Ethical Framework
As a Tantric Body-Worker, my practice must be based upon a strong ethical framework.
I uphold the highest standards of professionalism and integrity in all interactions.
Client-Centered Approach: Central to my ethical practice is the principle of client autonomy and empowerment. I prioritize informed and empowered consent, ensuring that clients feel safe and comfortable with each aspect of their bodywork journey.
This includes open communication about the processes involved, the potential emotional responses, and the option of working with sexual energy. I encourage clients to express their needs and boundaries, supporting a collaborative environment where their individual needs are respected and honored.
Confidentiality and Professionalism: All client interactions and personal histories shared during sessions are treated with the utmost discretion and respect. I am committed to creating a trusting atmosphere where clients can explore their bodies and emotions without fear of judgment or exposure.
Continuous Learning and Self-Care: A commitment to personal and professional growth is essential to my practice. By engaging in ongoing education and training I stay current with evolving practices and philosophies. My personal practices in Taoist Sexual Alchemy and Kundalini further enrich my understanding and effectiveness as a facilitator. This dedication to self-awareness and self-care allows me to bring my best self to each session, ensuring that I am grounded and present for my clients.
What Is Relational or Emotional Trauma?
We all carry some form of relational or emotional trauma, moments that were simply too much to process at the time, whether physically, sexually, or emotionally.
When an experience overwhelms our capacity to feel it fully in the moment, the natural expression, the anger, the grief, the sadness, gets trapped, and so does the energy behind it.
That moment becomes bypassed, both in memory and in the body itself. Parts of us shut down and go numb in response, held frozen in time rather than moved through.
The body is often described as an extension of the subconscious, yet so much of modern life keeps us living almost entirely in the mind, disconnected from what the body is actually holding.
What most of us are really seeking is to become more embodied, more connected to sensation, emotion, and the aliveness of our own senses.
The difficulty is that we cannot selectively numb; blocking out pain blocks out joy in equal measure, since the body doesn't discriminate between which feelings it shuts down.
"Trauma is too much, alone. Healing is feeling, together." - Buster Radviik
Therapies that support the body in healing trauma are becoming more widely accepted and used to real effect. We call these Somatic Therapies, a word that comes from the Greek "soma," meaning body, and more specifically the wisdom held within it. This type of Tantric Bodywork and de-armouring is a Somatic Healing process I'm proud to support people with.
For Women, specifically
For many women, this trauma carries an additional, gendered layer. Yoni is a Sanskrit term for the female genitalia, often referred to as the sacred space or the source of life.
Women, as life-givers, hold immense creative power, yet patriarchal and misogynistic systems have long suppressed the feminine, leaving many women with experiences of boundary violation, whether through relationships, medical procedures, or traumatic childbirth.
Because so much of this trauma is held specifically in the Yoni and pelvic area, healing this part of the body carries particular weight, and it can hold not only trauma from this lifetime but trauma passed down through the female lineage.
"Trauma is a fact of life. It does not have to be a life sentence." - Peter Levine
Gender Inclusivity
We all carry female and male energies within us, and living as close to our authentic expressions of these polarities and how they dance together is how we can have healthy relationships with ourselves and with others.
This includes unconditional love and acceptance for all expressions of this polarity.
Having said that, I specialize in supporting people who have female genitalia. And, so far, I have worked with clients with different sexual preferences and gender identities.
Trauma Informed Practice
Working within such a sensitive and nuanced realm of sexual energy, it is essential to be aware of the client’s previous trauma and the potential to elicit trauma within a session.
As a Trauma-informed therapist, I have studied trauma, how it affects the nervous system, how to spot symptoms of people going into a process or disassociating, and what to do in these moments.
Learning how to navigate the effects of trauma is a prominent piece of this work. This is because the therapy involves releasing stored emotions that have been carried around for a long time. And to do it in a safe and aware manner is essential for safe and effective results.
The Trauma-Informed Practice model and using Somatic Body Awareness techniques to heal may be the missing pieces you have been looking for when traditional therapies for sexual trauma have not worked. I often have clients approach me saying that traditional psychotherapy, talk therapy or CBT has not been fully effective, and they are looking for something different that may shift something for them.
Ongoing Informed Consent
I believe the work that I do is deeply profound because clients trust and fully surrender into their experience. To support this I prioritize clear communication and ongoing empowered consent.
Each session begins with a conversation to go through your intake form and work on your intentions and to create a safe space to express your needs, desires, and confirm your boundaries.
To put the mind at ease and reduce anxiety I explain your chosen Bodywork session in detail.
A full explanation leaves nothing to the imagination as all options are clarified.
I emphasize empowered consent, meaning that before approaching any intimate spaces I always invite a deep breath into the body and to listen to how it responds after giving options.…
I may ask - ‘Breath into your body and see how she responds when I offer massage the face, the abdomen or the chest and breast tissue, what feels comfortable for you?’.
This way, the session progresses in an empowered way where you are informing me of your wishes.
I follow with - ‘If anything changes, please let me know by asking for a pause or say stop.’
Sometimes an honoured ‘Ben, can we pause? or a ‘please can we stop’ is the medicine that you came to the session for.
The impact of being held, seen, heard and respected in that response, with no reaction or consequence is just what your body needed in the past. This is powerful!
It goes to heal the times you hadn’t had the ability to say those words. And it ripples into future timelines to support you in the future when you need that NO.
These words are not taken as a rejection but are in fact outwardly celebrated!
What this can look like
Everything from anger and sadness to ecstatic bliss is welcome to be expressed, with absolutely no judgement. Every response is welcome and held.
Once a session has finished, I give you time for your body to integrate the process, sitting by your side in silence while you travel on an inward journey. Sometimes this is where the deepest healing occurs. We then talk through your experience together, allowing reflection and integration over a cup of tea and some chocolate.
Feedback and Accountability
Working in this field is highly sensitive, and I hold my sessions with the utmost sincerity and respect.
I stand for female empowerment—for women to feel safe in their sensuality and reclaim full sovereignty and autonomy over their sexual experience. At the same time, much of this work involves trauma and the nervous system, which are complex and profound. Trauma can shape the lens through which we experience life, communication, and intimacy. Through this healing modality, the body is sometimes gently guided into states that touch the edges of trauma—so it can be seen, felt, and lovingly held, creating space for resolution and liberation.
Over the last six years of doing this work full time, I have evolved deeply. I’ve worked with hundreds of clients, and I continue to grow, adapt, and refine my practice. Each session teaches me something new, and I learn not only from my clients but also through ongoing training, self-led study, and rich conversations with peers and allies in the field.
Even with all of this dedication, I may not always get it right. I am human, after all.
When that happens, it becomes an opportunity to learn and repair.
If at any point something in a session hasn’t felt right for you, I want you to feel empowered to share that with me.
You can do so directly by filling out this form, or—if you’d prefer—you can contact a trusted third party who can pass on feedback or, if needed, help organise a mediation process for repair.
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If at any point something in a session hasn't felt right for you, I want you to feel empowered to share that with me. You can do so directly by filling out this form.
If you'd prefer not to contact me directly, you can instead reach out to a trusted third party, who can pass on feedback or help organise a mediation process for repair.
Lorretta Perrella - 07730 555209 - looberry@hotmail.com